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I landed in canada in april 2011 as my wife sponsored me. first few months i was looking for a job and i got one after sometime. but after sometime my wife started over ruling me, she told me now you are here, you have to do everything and wanted me to do whatever she says and started threatning me if i wont work like she says she will call police and get me deported. than she told me she never wanted to marry backhome but b coz of her parents she did. she started treating me like a slave wanted me to do bear all expenses and made me to travel in bus although we were holding a car and when i took this matter to her parents, they told me to leave and when her parents scolded her for all this she told me she will kill herself if i ever call them. we use to have a joint account but she transferred all the money to her personal account and took out all the jewllery from locker. when she started threatning me about police even on small small things then i consulted the police to come out the fear , also they also adviced me to stay separated. Even one day she told me she does not want to live with me pack your stuff and leave.
Now its been 8 mnths i staying separate from her. But now also her parents and she started harrasing my parents in india. they have filed a case of dowry against me and my parents. and because of this my parents are in trouble there. because her father has some links there. they are threatning my parents to pay them money, else with the help of police they will black list my passport number and get me deported..please advice...as i am not able to live peacefully...i am spending my time in depression because of this.
[17-12-2012,02:00]
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Hey dude, if you took any dowry, you MUST return it fast, without any further complications; if you took dowry, you also MUST work hard here and pay off in the form of services to your wife at home. I hate all situations when one spouse pays any material wealth to the other at the time of marriage.
Also, at this stage, you do not have much control since your parents also got involved in al this mess, so you have to keep busy and definitely NOT get depressed. Depression only complicates matters so fight that. It is next to impossible to have you deported, unless you commit crimes here; It all looks like you have entered the marriage in good faith and that´s all that matters. Your wife is Bullshitting you if she is telling they can deport you; Actually, since she sponsored you, YOU can get social assistance and SHE will have to pay!!! She is responsible for 3 years for your welfare. If you have the dowry complication, do not pursue divorce yet... Nobody in the court system like dowry methods.
[20-12-2012,17:08]
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Serious Lib |
abused (in reply to: abused)
But sir, we have not taken any dowry at the time of marriage. but my parents gifted her lot of jewllery as a tradition and she has everything with her here in her locker. but her paretns in india they are saying i was asking for a car for my parents. they are lying. they were threatning my parents to pay them 20000 dollars otherwise they will force me to come back to india. i have never asked for anything.i can work hard for my family.
and we are separate from last 8 months they did not do anything for first 5 months but now they are trying to make some money out of this. i have been to family court here, but they said its out of country matter they cant do anything. they told all they can do is my help in filing divorce.
[21-12-2012,00:15]
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I am not aware of Indian laws, but it does not appear they have legal ground even in India, since they have NOT purchased a vehicle as dowry. How can it stand legal scrutiny if the act of paying dowry was not done! as far as them saying that they were ASKED to provide a vehicle becomes their word against your word; if your parents counter their claim that no such demand was made and no vehicle was ever gifted to them as dowry for your marriage, the judge can only throw this case out and likely demand that they cover the court costs and any damages coming from the case. They are simply playing on fears... do not yield, is all I can say. All legals squabbles arising outside Canada can not be including in a Canada-jurisdiction court. So this dowry issue will not stand in Canada. Not sure about Indian courts but I suppose they have simple rules (did they actually purchase a vehicle and hand it to your parents? if the answer is no, then their claim is baseless...) All you need to focus now is your own employment, income etc... you can ignore your soon-to-be-ex demands and ask her not even to contact you, to stop further harassment.
[22-12-2012,13:11]
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admicer |
abused (in reply to: abused)
Yes sir i am trying to focus on my job now and thanks a lot for your opinion...i am grateful to you..i will try to sort this matter as soon as possible.
[22-12-2012,23:52]
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anonymous |
abused (in reply to: abused)
Hi,
Just wanted to discuss my matter again,Backhome in india my wife and her parents has filed a fake case of dowry against my parents and me.Its been now almost 8 months my parents have been harrassed by police by calling them again and again to police station. Unfortunately in india police always favours the girl side and law also favours them that girls can file a case against you in india by sitting out of country.
My old parents were threatened for jail and also for me that police will red flag my passport number so that i can not go india unless the case has not been resolved. Now my father´s health is not good but still he has to travel to police station when ever he is called and when we tried to contest the case her parents started talking for sattlement and asking for money. Police also involved in sattlement. Since her father has some links with police and in court, my paretns bail got rejected once. Now considering my parents health and their harrasment, i decided to solve this matter amicably and this is also what her parents want. But i have few questions:
1. If i go for sattlement ,can my wife still make any case against me here, although her parents said we have to pay after the divorce is done.
But now the police is asking my parents to get into a written agreement.with them.
Please advice i am really worried about my parents back home and my cunning wife here that she could play some other game ..to make money...
[15-04-2013,21:54]
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Anonymous |
PLEASE ADVICE (in reply to: abused)
please advice guys,, what should i do...i need urgent advice on this matter..
[17-04-2013,16:06]
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