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Listener is not listening very well. In your question you said you want to stop your wife from immigrating to Canada. You want to stop her from wanting to separate from you.
Follow your heart is not really the solution. You do not appear to be wanting out - your wife does. So the question is not how you control her actions... it is how she will respond to whatever attempts you make to control HER. You cannot control another person and what they think or feel. You can only control yourself.
If she is wanting to immigrate to Canada and you try to stop her - do you think that will help her love you again or will it make her hate you even more? Do you need a hint? If you have falsified your immigration documents, maybe a good start would be to tell her the truth to save her from possible problems with Immigration officials. If she finds out you lied on your application and it makes problems for her - how popular do you think you will be?
May I suggest that if you want your marriage to work, and you want this woman to love you, being honest and respecting her right to choose is a good starting point.
[24-09-2011,19:18]
[**.183.102.143]
Sharon |
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(in reply to: Robi #2)
Love Hurts!
Robi is venting from others opinions. Do this, Do that, Don´t do this, Don´t do that!
It takes two to argue, two to fight and TWO to make up.
Having to move on with ones life is never easy option. It may be the best for some and not for others.
Please, let Robi make up his own mind.
Roy
cvimmigration.com
[25-09-2011,08:26]
[***.206.84.231]
Roy |
(in reply to: Robi #2)
You may be using you to migrate to canada?
[25-09-2011,10:13]
[**.247.210.96]
SG |
(in reply to: Robi #2)
Robi where are you man??????????
People are just dying to break your marriage. (Which I know you want to save)
Just because it didn’t work for "them"...they think it won’t work for you too.
I am just listening to them .....as I always have ..... You come back and at least tell us...... whom did u listen to?
[26-09-2011,13:53]
[***.29.230.233]
Listener |
(in reply to: Robi #2)
Listener, I don´t like to see marriages break up. That is why I stayed in my marriage for as long as I did. You are missing one important detail in Robi´s story. He is not the one wanting to end the marriage. Your advise should be directed at his wife - and she is not reading this.
He has a serious problem on his hands - he misled his wife and lied to CIC. How do you think that is going to go over in an already strained relationship?
[26-09-2011,14:08]
[**.180.239.117]
Sharon |
(in reply to: Robi #2)
Whatever happened is long gone now. Now i think they have their passports stamped..... so let it go with CIC.
he wanted to stop his wife (as she is the PA) so that he could survive his marriage. (Read his post once again)
now if she is not reading this ..... he is ....
i strongly believe every man has the capacity to make his wife feel that she is the most important person in his life ..... and that is all he has to do .....and she will not leave without him .........
and this is how it should be with every couple:)
i am sorry if i hurt u :(
[26-09-2011,14:22]
[***.29.230.233]
Listener |
(in reply to: Robi #2)
You did not hurt me.
Your belief about the ability to make someone feel important enough to stay in a relationship sounds good in theory but is very naive.
I think we both agree on 1 thing - trying to stop his wife from using the PR visa is not the best way to keep a marriage together. Like I said before - honesty has a much better chance.
We don´t have the benefit of knowing her side of the story so I am not prepared to promise him any sort of success.
[26-09-2011,15:55]
[**.180.239.117]
Sharon |
(in reply to: Robi #2)
Naive Theory............ hummmmm
Why do so many people spend their entire lifetime with each other...... despite thousands of fights among them??????????
[26-09-2011,16:46]
[***.29.230.233]
Listener |
(in reply to: Robi #2)
fights are not the main reason people split. Adultery, emotional abuse, violence, addiction, lack of respect are far bigger factors than a disagreement over what colour to paint the bedroom.
[26-09-2011,17:23]
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Sharon |
(in reply to: Robi #2)
marriages surrounded by these factors do not survive even for 3 months......but still marriage is an institution that we all must believe in.
[27-09-2011,08:43]
[***.178.188.66]
Listener |
(in reply to: Robi #2)
what ever you say, Listener. You obviously live on a different planet than I do.
[27-09-2011,08:52]
[**.180.239.117]
Sharon |
