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i married my husband in 2004, he was quit the charmer, we fell in love, a year later we were married, about month later i found out he was a refugee after finding a letter, i confronted my husband he told me about what this was all about, so he had ask a friend who is an immigration lawyer to help out with is case, so i get a phone call one afternoon asking if would come down to this lawyers office, so i do and it was explained to me that the only way to keep my husband in the country is to sponser him and that there is a new law that the immigration board can not send him back until his case is heard, so of course i jumped at the chance to have my husband stay here with me.
this is where my life turn upside down, he became very distant, meaning he would leave for months at a time with no word from him, he would drink very heavy, and gambled alot, he became very mean with me going out all a hours of night, just the way he was was not the person i met , yes you must be saying and acting like that he has a drinking problem and gambling problem, well keep reading, so in 2007 i was told i had breast cancer, now my husband knew this he was suppost to drive me to hospital the next, however little did i know he had his own plans, which were to leave me and that he did he came home that night and said he had to leave town quit that he has a job in edmonton he dont have time to waste, and he just left out the door.
during that time i traveled to edmonton about on month later and for some reason he didnt want there he told me i had to leave or he would leave that i had to return to bc right away i was confused, he actually pushed out the door, and drove me to the airport, so i returned to bc he told me that he needs a couple of months to get on his feet and then he would send for me to come to edmonton. so two months go by no answer at all, his friend wont tell anything so i call the police and put a missing report out for my husband, well they found him , in pakistan, why he didnt tell me he was going there i dont know, well do now , so call him in pakistan i ask him if he is coming back to canada he says yes he wasnt happy to hear my voice at the time.
so i get a call from him a month later telling me that he wants me to come edmonton in february of 2008, so sure enough i call him in edmonton and he says that he want to make things better and that if i move to alberta things will be better, he told he not to talk to his cousins in british columbia that they a fight about something i should stay away so i agreed, i packed everything up and moved to alberta, now when i told my parents about me going to alberta and trying to make things work with my husband, we faught about so things were not good however i left anyways.
things were great for the first month until his true colours started to shine, he started drinking alot, gambling alot, he began calling me name, he began to be very controlling, and then the worst he began hitting me, telling me things like everything is my fault, i had no where to go, i turn my back on my family because i wanted this marriage to work, i had to go to the police and report what he had done to me. i was scared for my life at this point. well stupid me i trusted him and he said things will be different but they were not the abuse still continued.
one afternoon i was on my computer little did my husband know i went to check my email so i click in the icon and his mail box opened up, he did not log out, so i began to read all these emails and i looked at this pictures, emails that were dated back as far as 2005 around the same time i meet my husband. well of course i started freaking out, and i confronted him about all of this, i asked him are you or have you married someone in pakistan when you when to visit, he asked how i got this information,so i told him he never logged out of this account and i told everything makes sence now, how he told me not answer his cousins calls and i was not allow to go over there anymore, and that i must come to edmonton thats only because we know too many people in your communtity that just maybe this information would come out some how. i told him you left me when i had cancer and you made me believe everything was going to be fine,
now i tried to log into his email account later that afternoon however he got to it before me and deleted everything in his email box, he did admitt to having married this girl in pakistan, then he became very abusive and got hit badly, he had left the house and i called my parent in bc, to come home after telling them everything that has happen, i caught the fist flight to bc, and came home,
while i was here i had to report the abuse here to the rcmp, the government of alberta gave me money to move my things out of alberta my husband has no idea i am here.
my question is after all that has happen,
with the abuse, and lying to me and with is marriage in pakistan what can i do.
i sponsered my husband believeing that he loved me however he was living a double life.
i must say one last thing, now his parents knew he married me they were not very happy about it they knew he was living with me and worked together, now that very same day i found out i email this girl back and told her i as his wife we have been married for seven years in canada, i sent pictures of the wedding, the next day i get a call from pakistan it was my husband uncle this is the father of the girl he married yes he married his cousin. his family knew nothing about me this was the frist time they heard my name he questioned me about the married, where he lived , if his parent knew about this he also said this was not a safe situation and demanded to speak to my husband however i didnt know where he was i had to run away to bc to get away from him.
if i talk to the immigration board would they be able to send him back to pakistan, and if i sponsered him and he is owning taxes here in canada will be responible for his debt, now lets said nothing can be done would be able to bring his wife into canada, i mean i am his first marriage, and he went and marriage outside the country he is allowed to do that, i am so confused, this is the first time in my life i have had to deal with something like this.
i was blind in love with my husband and i fell victim to his act.
what can be done about all of this
[21-01-2010,06:33]
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christina |
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(in reply to: my husband used me for his pr card)
I admit that I did not read the whole story. The reason was that I heard this sort of stories so often that it makes me sick to hear again and again. Not long ago, a man who sponsored his newly wed wife got dumped just few weeks after she´d arrived. She just bluntly said she used him for status and left. :vomit: If you are looking for a way to revoke his status after he received, you are out of luck. As far as I know, it can´t be revoked. I hate to say this but you have to suck it up.
[21-01-2010,09:02]
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Anonymous |
(in reply to: my husband used me for his pr card)
My sixth sense is kicking in and there is something in your story that doesn add but I would have to interview you to analyze the whole thing while you are telling me the story.
Anyway, contact CBSA and tell them your story.
They will take it from there. I assume that you have contacted the RCMP and have a case open under investigation based on a domestic violence right? I assume that you can prove with solid evidence all what you are saying right?
He is innocent until proven guilty in a court law, keep that in mind.
[21-01-2010,14:53]
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DocD |
(in reply to: my husband used me for his pr card)
I felt sorry for you until I read it was a paki you married! well, this is the unfortunate price you pay for marrying a moslem without first knowing the guy well enough; if he was nice to you, that doesn´t mean he wasn´t cunning. Also, moslems don´t see any big issue with marrying a few women. Are you even a real Canadian? Or immigrant too? your writing is a bit difficult to follow.
[22-01-2010,11:10]
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ImmAgent |
(in reply to: my husband used me for his pr card)
Here´s a site where you can meet people in similar situations. Perhaps you can get ideas from them.
http://stopmarriagefraud.ca/
[24-01-2010,07:53]
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miyuki |
Racist Jerk (in reply to: my husband used me for his pr card)
ImmAgent.....you are just a racist....your writing is full of mistakes!!!First of all it is a Muslim not a Moslem....u Ignorant!!!
[25-02-2010,13:36]
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XX |
update (in reply to: my husband used me for his pr card)
in response to the comment yes you its muslim not moslem, and yes i am a canadian citizen. i have found out that my husband is in pakistan of his own free will. now i just have find a way to keep him there so he can not return to canada. any idea?
[26-04-2010,02:18]
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christina |
(in reply to: my husband used me for his pr card)
don´t buy him a ticket.
as for Muslim and Moslem - have a look at this...
According to the Center for Nonproliferation Studies, "Moslem and Muslim are basically two different spellings for the same word." But the seemingly arbitrary choice of spellings is a sensitive subject for many followers of Islam. Whereas for most English speakers, the two words are synonymous in meaning, the Arabic roots of the two words are very different. A Muslim in Arabic means "one who gives himself to God," and is by definition, someone who adheres to Islam. By contrast, a Moslem in Arabic means "one who is evil and unjust" when the word is pronounced, as it is in English, Mozlem with a z.
For others, this spelling differentiation is merely a linguistic matter, with the two spellings a result of variation in transliteration methods. Both Moslem and Muslim are used as nouns. But some writers use Moslem when the word is employed as an adjective.
Journalists switched to Muslim from Moslem in recent years under pressure from Islamic groups. But the use of the word Moslem has not entirely ceased. Established institutions which used the older form of the name have been reluctant to change. The American Moslem Foundation is still the American Moslem Foundation (much as the NAACP is still the NAACP--the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People). The journal The Moslem World--published by the Hartford Seminary in Connecticut--is still The Moslem World.
[26-04-2010,02:29]
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Sharon |
since when? (in reply to: my husband used me for his pr card)
since when do muslims drink and gamble? just cuz someone calls themselves something doesn´t make them so. hitler was jewish, so no one trusts jews now? the countless school shootings, movie theatre shootings, killings, abuse, etc hapening in usa are committed by christians, and for the last 10+ years christians have invaded other countries, destroyed lives, killing hundreds of thousands. so no one should trust christians either?
learn to differentiate between a person and a religion. the world does, so should you.
[24-11-2014,19:05]
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suze |
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