Husband still in Morocco

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Subject: Husband still in Morocco
  hey Sharon , just wanted you to know it was the calling center who
told me i shouldn´t have a problem getting my husband here once we did get married , but like i said , they lie to you n twist words around to make them look right n us wrong , n they wouldn´t know the truth if it bit them on their butts

[29-06-2009,20:22]
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Laurie
(in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
call centre employees have no idea what they are talking about. They have never read a file, or made an approval determination. They answer basic questions.

What is your plan B?

[29-06-2009,21:24]
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Sharon
Husband still in Morocco (in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
Hi Sharon
well i have wrote a letter to the immigrations Minister , maybe hoping if he looks at my file and my husband has already wrote him , but if we don´t hear anything , i have a friend whos going to help me put my story in the media and papers, because like i said our words were twisted and their reasons for rejectong my husband because of our ages is wrong ...... if he was here when i met him i would have married him and they wouldn´t say anything then because hes here ........ all i want to do is show people how wrong imigrations can be .... sorry Sharon but i am not gonna give on my fight for my husband , we hurt every night since we got the news and yes we still do keep in contact everynight for 2 hours on msn messanger with our web cams going , and we breakdown all the time , i just miss him and i am so hurt with immigrations and how we were treated ...... Laurie

[01-07-2009,15:21]
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Laurie
(in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
Honey, you are not getting this.

You have exhausted your appeal options. There is nobody left to complain to. Your MP and the Immigration Minister have absolutely no power at this point. You took your application to appeal and lost.

Why were you treated so badly. Your case was judged on its merits. Your appeal was judged on its merits. Did you do the application yourself? Did you take it to appeal without a lawyer? If so... who´s fault is that - not CIC. You can cry all you want and tell the world how much you love each other and how you break down and blah, blah,blah - THEY DON´T CARE.

An option. Divorce him. Marry him and apply to sponsor him again from the beginning. This time... use a lawyer or a well referenced consultant.

Option 2 - have him come on his own merits as a skilled worker.

Stop wasting time hoping someone is going to change their mind. It´s not going to happen.

[01-07-2009,18:27]
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Sharon
Husband still in Morocco (in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
hey sharon
i did have a lawyer at my appeal and as far as he was concered we won the case , because it went so well , but at the end of it as i was leaving he asked me if my husband n i were rich ..... i mean kind of question is that n what kind of question is does my husband know what menopause is ,,,,, stupid questions i can see . i know you were trying to help but there is no way im giving up on my husband , they can say its not genuine or not , be cause its real not fake

[01-07-2009,20:08]
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Laurie
(in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
if there is an age difference, a question about the implications of menopause could be considered legitimate, especially if you husband has no children. Like it or not, in his culture, not having children is a shame. He should have been prepared to explain why it didn´t matter.

Can´t tell you why your lawyer misread the proceedings or asked you about your finances.

And, I am not suggesting you give up on your husband. What I am saying is that you have exhausted your options under the current application.

[02-07-2009,00:09]
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Sharon
Husband still in Morocco (in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
Hey Sharon
my husband is 11 years younger than i am , he told them on the phone at the appeal court date ... that it didn´t matter to him if he had children or not , we were going to adopt or do it the other way , i can´t see what they are doing to us .... i mean Sharon i was talking to my husband last night via web cams on MSN Messanger he said one thing i didn´t want to hear , that he would kill himself and then went off line , you don´t know how scared i was !!!!! , but our ages are only numbers , i can´t see why people can´t look beyond that because if he was here in canada already and we married would we be discriminated against because of our ages ...... Sharon sorry the way i sound but yes we are not giving on each other and i know the way people think about people like my husband , but don´t judge till you get to know them

Laurie

[02-07-2009,12:50]
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Laurie
(in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
Laurie, you should know by now that Arab men can be overly dramatic. You know how I know... I was involved with an Arab man for 6 years - long distance - and he was younger than me. Your story is not that unique. That is how I got involved in this forum. Trying to figure out how we were going to get him to Canada. The only difference between you and me is I did not marry the guy. I knew beyond any doubt that CIC was going to rip us to shreds on a family class application and the process would kill us no matter how well we prepared our file. Instead we filed a skilled worker application. Even that was tough and he has a doctoral degree.

I have seen couples with children being denied so please, try not feel like a victim - You now have a problem. If you want to be together it is time to look forward not back as to what your next move might be.

[02-07-2009,14:29]
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Sharon
Husband still in Morocco (in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
hey Sharon sorry i have been difficult .... i have been with my husband now almost 5 years and we have been married almost 4 , i talked to him about the work thing , beleive me i love him like crazy and i do want to be with him , no one knows the pain im going through , i´ve had a breakdown and missed 4 months of work because of it , i just need anything to help me get him here and i don´t wanna divorce him we both can´t afford it , it to much ,

Laurie

[02-07-2009,21:13]
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Laurie
(in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
Laurie, you are not getting this. It matter nothing how long you have been together, how sick you have been, what you ultimately want to do... you have exhausted plan A. IT IS OVER. So, the question now becomes, what will you do instead. Stop trying to re-write history, it will do nothing but waste time. Ignoring it - only wastes times. You have wasted at least 3 days now... pay attention - the family class sponsorship option is CLOSED.
[03-07-2009,01:37]
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Sharon
Husband still in Morocco (in reply to: Husband still in Morocco)
Hey Sharon im not trying to rewrite my history i am mainly trying to see if there is any other way you would think best i can try n get my husband here , this is all im asking , i love him dearly just want to be with him , please understand , im not trying to cause problems just need advice , if you want me to stop writing , tell me don´t put me down for asking

Laurie

[17-07-2009,18:25]
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Laurie